From Piece of Mind to Peace of Mind
Have you ever dealt with something in your life that brought you down and caused you to act out in ways you later regretted? Maybe something caused you to snap and you gave someone a piece of your mind and it was not pleasant. What if you could go from wanting to give people a piece of your mind about what upsets you to having peace of mind even though your circumstances may not change?
For years, I have joked that you are everywhere you go…but it’s true! You cannot escape from yourself. Because of that, everything that you have going on in your life and what is happening to you is with you everywhere you go – home, work, and everywhere in-between. The good news is that there are tools at your disposal you can use to manage things that may be chipping away at your peace.
Since bullets and headers are required for good SEO and readability scores 😊, let’s list some tools that will help you have peace of mind:
- Know Yourself to Lead Yourself
- Your Peace Index
Being self-aware leads to peace. How? Because if you are self-aware, you can get out of your way and stop wrecking things unintentionally or intentionally. You can lead yourself better. When you begin to intentionally recognize tendencies that lead to actions that cause negative consequences which lead to damaged relationships, you can call yourself up to better behaviors. You can begin to manage those negative behaviors by identifying ways to modify them to get better outcomes.
To break down the whole process, it looks like this:
- We all have tendencies.
- Tendencies lead to patterns.
- Patterns lead to actions.
- Our actions have consequences.
- Our consequences shape our reality.
I will use myself as an example of what this looks like in person:
- I have a tendency to want to speak my mind when I feel passionate about something.
- That tendency leads to a pattern of me thinking I must voice whatever it is I am passionate about.
- I act on it and speak about whatever it is I am passionate about and say it sharply.
- My consequences are that I offend someone either by my word or tone or both.
- My reality is that I have damaged a relationship.
By knowing myself to lead myself, I recognize this behavior and call myself up to better behavior by taking a pause when that tendency of feeling passionate about something comes over me. I decide whether or not I need to say it. If I decide I do need to say it, I do so with a neutral tone. The result is I do not have any negatively altered reality.
Earlier this year we wrote a blog about Self-Care. You are encouraged to click here to read it! In short, make sure you are taking time to care for yourself. You can do this by:
- Taking some downtime doing whatever serves you best.
- Getting rid of that which no longer serves you – or never did – and replacing it with good things.
- Changing our filters. Are you jaded in any areas of your life? You probably need to change a filter.
- Managing priorities. The things we give the most attention to are not always the most important. Seek to find balance and alignment with your priorities.
Being intentional with taking care of yourself will bring you peace of mind.
Jeremie Kubicek, author of The Peace Index, says, “If you don’t have internal peace, it is hard to bring peace to any you work with or love.”
We all have things going on in our lives that affect our level of peace. The Peace Index tool allows us to examine what those things are so that we can be aware of them and lead ourselves better. Whatever is causing us unrest will have an impact on our peace in every area of our lives.
The Peace Index measures your peace in five areas:
- Purpose: Do you feel that you are living out your purpose daily?
- Place What is your level of peace related to your spaces: house, neighborhood, town, city, or region?
- Provision: What you get paid to do is tied to the salary you receive. Do you have the resources you need to live your life?
- Personal Health: The health of your mind, body, and spirit.
- People: How good do you feel about the most important people in your life?
You score each area from 0-100, add up the scores, and divide them by 5 to get your Peace Index. Most people average anywhere from 60% – 70%. Through coaching and using this tool along with many others, we aim to help people improve their Peace Index to 90%+.
You have been given some heavy-duty tools in this blog that, when used, will bring you peace. Now all you have to do is give them a try. Or are you willing to wait until the next time you ‘lose it’ and give someone a piece of your mind? Be proactive and love yourself enough to try something new.